Handling Anger Through Anger Management
We all have the ability to sense or feel emotions according to the situational demands. When an individual feels positive or achieve any goal, he feels happiness. When someone experience unexpectedly bad he or she feels sadness. Changing in emotions describe how a person sense them in different circumstances. Similarly, feeling of anger is natural emotion that every human being experience at some point in his or her life. If we seen in positive spectrum, anger is a common vigorous sentiment but it can be severe to an extreme that could make negative impact on relationships, health and state of mind. Anger can be destructive emotion for anyone if he doesn’t know it’s handling on various events. In old times people express their anger by doing wars through weapons to show dominancy on opponents. Whereas, in present era people not only identify their source of aggression but also have knowledge to release their angry emotions in better way but sometime it is much hard to release aggression in an appropriate manner.
When an individual perceived himself mistreated or unfair he tends to express his feelings through aggressive acts. Expression of anger is normal and healthy until it doesn’t harm oneself or others but unfortunately people don’t control on their anger and they show it in an inappropriate way.
Our bodily changes indicate us the severity of aggression, increase in heart pulse, palpitation, sweating, blood pressure and change in the level of adrenaline and non adrenaline hormone are common sign and symptoms. When an individual initiate to confront the threat situation, usually he overwhelm by aggressive feelings that make changes in his cognition and physiology. Current findings suggest that offensiveness, hunger, physical pain, disappointments, financial loss, mental illness and drug addiction are the common factors that force a person to become aggressive for an undetermined time or period.
Different kind of health issues may be arise because of uninhibited and unsolved aggression, which could be headache, backache, cardiovascular disease, insomnia, irritable bowel syndrome, digestive problems, stroke, hypertension and pain in lower abdomen.
This emotion when become unhealthy or destructive can only be handling through the employment of positive tools that are the central part of method identified as Anger Management. Understanding about anger management is necessary before jumping to its tactics and usage in various occasions where aggression dominates a person. It is basically a process of acquisition of skills to identify the symptoms and physiological changes which occur when someone feels anger and when become aware to the signs of aggressive emotions; he utilizes the strategies of dealing with anger in a subtle way.
When a person is short temper and he realizes that it’s difficult to handle his anger or he can’t do well to channelize his anger in acceptable way then managing angry emotion is a healthier solution for him. Once he learn to manage his high time of become angry he can easily repeat management techniques in next conflicting situation. People often feel disturb when they hurt others in aggression, they feel guilty of expressing anger abruptly but they also want to vent out angry emotion in front of others. Learning the art managing anger takes time and practice in every situation where anger can be over whelm but regular practice make the path easier for learner. Controlling of anger and expressing it properly can help to make relationships more stronger, attaining goals, spend a healthier and satisfactory life.
• An assertive/ non aggressive style of communication is the best way to dealing with anger or conflicting situation where aggression can be predispose.
• Adding exercise in daily routine can be beneficial if someone wants to express anger in a healthy manner.
• Hormonal changes occur when someone involve in an aggression or aggressive behavior, this could also help a person to get out of danger.
• It is useful to make notes before starting a conversation, when individual have an idea that could lead to argument or fight with others.
• Identification of provoking thoughts that make a person feel angry, hence it is important to find solution of conflicting situation rather than to act aggressively. Finding of a ways to handle or overcome the anxiety producing anger is much worthwhile than to stick with problem.
• Holding on offensiveness is useless when person have awareness it could only exaggerate problems.
• Relaxation exercise such as deep breathing, progressive muscles relaxation is a healthy coping strategies to deal with anger.
• A sound sleep is must to remain fresh and energetic when someone faces conflicting condition. For good mental and physical health eight hours sleep is necessary to keep away from negative vibes.
• Avoid discussing important matters when you or your family members seem tired because it will keep away from arising conflicting situation when anyone show less interest in discussion.
Hence, anger is a manageable emotion and its management in various situations can put off individual from stress, mental and physical illness and major losses.
Myths and facts about anger
Myth: Venting out of aggression is a healthy, one shouldn’t hold on anger.
Fact: Though it is right that repressing and avoiding anger is damaging, but loud expression of anger is also not better mode. Letting out aggression just to ignore blow up is neither good nor healthy for person or others. Eventually, flare up and tirades only provide fuel to negative thoughts about conflicts, arguments and thus it reinforces aggression for another situation.
Myth: If I want to earn respect from others or society then aggression, being aggressive and bullying can help me to get what I think.
Fact: Bullying or hurting doesn’t help one to get respect. People usually don’t like a person who tries to dominate by showing his negative attitude or expressing aggression. If a person is unable to control on anger or handle criticism and release emotions through fighting or argument then others will not respect even if he is right on his perspective. On the other hand if he communicates his viewpoint in a polite way, others will be accepting his opinion more willingly and understand his needs as well.
Myth: Controlling anger is impossible. I can’t learn its management.
Fact: Person can’t always control or change the situation which he faces or how it makes him feel, but he can be in charge of his emotion and express it in suitable circumstances. And he/she can communicate about his feelings without being verbally or physically offensive. Even if somebody is pulling his buttons, he always has an option about how to act in response.
Myth: Managing anger is all about learning to repress anger.
Fact: Not getting angry is not a smart goal. Anger is typical, and it will come out despite of how hard one try to hold back it. Anger management is all about becoming alert of core feelings and needs and emerging healthier ways to manage being distress. Suppression of anger shouldn’t be a goal but to express it in constructive ways.
Importance of managing anger
Anger if express wrongly, it could be destructing healthy relationships, impaired judgment, lose sense of right and wrong deeds, failures in life and having negative impression on people. People may think that venting aggression is a better way but others don’t accept this expression immediately. One can’t justify aggressive behavior in a good way or not defend his viewpoint when anger ruled his brain or thinking ability.
• Negative impact on physical health. Worrying frequently about aggressive behavior increases high level of stress and tension that is damaging for health. Unremitting anger makes person more vulnerable to cardiovascular diseases, diabetes, increase cholesterol level, decrease immunity, sleep problems and high blood pressure.
• Uncontrollable anger impairs mental health. Extreme anger sucked mental energy hugely and make thinking negative, one find difficulty to focus on task, see the bigger picture, and live life happily. Anger can also lead to mental illnesses such as; stress, depression, and so on.
• Extreme anger damage career. Productive disagreement, inventive differences, and passionate debate can be healthy. Bombardment of criticism can only create distances among colleagues, supervisors, or clients and hurt their self respect.
• Anger creates conflicts in relationships. Anger can be harmful for our close relationships which we don’t want to lose at any cost. People usually don’t trust a person who remain angry in every circumstances, they don’t feel comfortable when talking or spending time together.