If you look at the word sexy. Everyone has different views on it. In general people will think of people who show much skin. Women, which are showing their underwear, are perhaps the most associated with the word sexy. But what does sexy really included.
According to psychologist, sexy is an attraction that is determined by your whole being. The uniqueness of your personality. Sexiness isn’t about the low cleavage or the amount of skin you show. So we should stop measuring ourselves to the general prevailing beauty ideals. Attractiveness and sensuality must be sought in other things for example: a gesture, a smile, a rippling laugh. It’s about the attractive, individual properties that make us unique. So we have to stop to constantly confront ourselves with our own imperfections.
Fashion show, magazines, commercials, the media, famous people, the new craze around social influencers. Again and again we are confronted with the beauty ideals that prevail upon our society and culture. Many young adults and adults try to meet the perfect image answer in this beauty image in their appearance as much as possible.
Frequently, this daily mirror leads to dissatisfaction with our own appearance. We are concerned about our figure, skin, the shape of our lips, nose and so on. We constantly strive for perfection, while we forget that no human being is perfect and that life isn’t about being perfect.
It’s rather about the way you look, move, laugh, and talk. It’s all about your charisma, the essence of your person. This focus on your own person has a very special ‘adverse reaction’. It leads to confidence, people that feel good in their own skin, who move with ease, which live their own lives. Are the most attractive and sexy people of all.
This doesn’t mean we shouldn’t pay attention to our looks and body. That we should stop dressing ourselves up and taking care of ourselves. From the past we know humans are just like a peacock. We try to show our most beautiful selves with the tools we have. For women this can be nice hair, make up and clothes. For men this can be the same or a muscular body, a nice car etcetera.
The attention to our appearance should not lead to dissatisfaction with our personal image where we focus on our own imperfections. It’s more about learning to accept our imperfections. This is the first step to self-love, a step that ensures you feel attractive.
Attractiveness isn’t about a matter of appearance. So for that reason psychologist believe it’s important to accentuate your best assets. But not only that, we already said that attraction isn’t about looks alone. It’s also important to get to know yourself. To get to know the new aspects of your personality. For that reason it’s important to develop yourself and do get to know yourself. There isn’t anything more attractive than a person who has the right amount of self-love. Who moves naturally through life and expresses his or her own unique personality.
Cute women don’t immediately have the sex appeal. They are mostly seen as cute little girls who don’t harm a fly. They have sparkly eyes, a sweet smile and are always positive. They often have cute soft features and a youthful appearance.
Sexy women often know that they are sexy. It’s as simple as that. Because they think they are sexy, they show that to the public and with that attitude everyone is going to think that. It’s all about confidence, man like a woman with confidence, they see it as sexy. Sexy comes from lust. However, it’s not always about sex. For example, we find strong women that are focused on career also very sexy.
A sexy woman is sexy because she owns it. It has nothing to do with her clothes, fake breast, or other material things. It comes from inside. Of course some men think sexiness is about big breast or a great figure but it’s really about the women her self. About the mystery or wildness within a woman.
Nowadays plastic surgery becomes one of the most normal things to do. People who are standing in line for the register talk about it, teenagers know what words like plastic surgery and Botox mean and more people are willing to take plastic surgery.
The popularity for plastic surgery grows. The culture becomes more and more superficial. Partly as a result of the image around the word. Things nowadays become more about looks. People are obsessed with their appearance because first glance is everything. So for that reasons people also forgot what makes them really attractive and therefore sexy.
Many people think that sexiness and falling for someone is about looks. But they’re mistaking. Most of us are about the ‘skin deep’. We fall on appearance and behaviour. Many people think that a nice appearance immediately means you have a nice inner self. But of course that’s not true. Those two are totally not related.
The misunderstanding that if someone is beautiful from the outside this also means there beautiful from the inside, is enhanced by the visual culture in which society is immersed. Even so much that we’re not even aware of it. In countless films and probably commercials, desire is due to outer beauty. Directors do nothing less than using the strong features of their medium, but because viewers are exposed to this numerous times a day, they unwittingly think that beauty and desirable are the same thing. On screen, it seems so simple: if you’re sexy men fall for you. But there are so many more things that are involved, especially in the long run.
So what makes women attractive? Self-awareness, showing their emotions, sincere attention for others, dedication. Women who fancy having sex and show that, are sexy. That kind of pleasure stimulates man.
So sexiness isn’t about getting rid of the wrinkles in your face, getting a boob job or any other form of changing yourself. It’s about having confidence, loving yourself and showing that to the world. When your confident, kind to others and just love life you are sexy.
The whole meaning of sexy has been up-graded to a more intelligent and sophisticated level where people celebrate the internal beauty, whether it is the mental, emotional or spiritual aspect. Inner beauty will always beat out external beauty in the long run. Sexy is within everybody, it’s within yourself. You don’t need to be perfect, you simply can’t be perfect. Sexiness is in the corner of your eyes, the tip of your smile, the scar on your body. It’s the energy you radiate, your unique personality, your confidence.
The 5 objects in your DNA that make you sexy are; first of all intelligence, being with someone whom you can have a real conversation with can be really sexy. Second is humour, when someone brings a little humour in the conversation it can change the look you have of him or her. Third one is being yourself and the fourth one as well; self love. The moment we start being ourselves, we embrace our self-love, we are pleased with who we have grown to be, our thoughts will reflect this. Since thoughts are electromagnetic fields, they will spread around. That’s how others receive the fibe we release about ourselves. When we feel good about ourselves others start feeling good in the presence of being with us. The fifth one; confidence. If we feel confident, others start feeling the same about our ideas and care about our opinions. When you let go about the assumptions others have off you and let go of the I’m not good enough feeling, you get more in touch with your real essence. The only person you need to be good enough for is yourself.
So it all starts and ends with self-love. Being you, loving who you are as a person. Practice good self-care, set boundaries, protect yourself and also forgive yourself when your making mistakes. Accept the decision that you make and deal with the consequences, if your experience some negative feelings, accept them. Try to change the negative experience in to a positive lesson. Test and make a list with the things that make you feel good about yourself and try to figure out why they give you this feeling. Treat yourself and don’t be too harsh on yourself. Step outside your comfort zone and challenge yourself, this way you see that you are stronger than you think you are. Celebrate the small and big wins in life, pat yourself on the back and be proud on what you achieve. Stop comparing yourself to others and also stop asking for approval from others. It’s your life. When you change the way you look and feel about yourself you immediately show that to the world. Loving your self, is being sexy, feeling sexy and showing the world that you are a sexy attractive human being.