Is there anyone in this world that has never needed to battle to make due in this life? Living without difficulties may even solid ridiculous the most fortunate and the wealthiest of individuals, however envision when one loses both of their folks at a youthful age, or when one's folks decline to recognize their youngsters' presence. The spirit of that youngster will be scarred permanently, it may influence a large portion of the choices they take throughout everyday life, it may even desensitize them to the brutal substances of life at a youthful age; molding each one of their ways to deduce in a similar destiny. Their fate? Their Luck? Who are we to control what happens to us in the end? There might be someone just like you with the same name, about the same age, living in the same neighborhood, but it doesn’t matter how much alike you are to someone because there’s not a path in life that you can take that guarantees a “happy ending”, yet the only thing we can be sure of is death.
In "The Other Wes Moore", both Wes Moore's had pretty scarring events in their lives, nonetheless, it was generally because of the conditions in which they were both raised in that their environments practically shaped and characterized their different ways of life as people. As children, the parents assume a vital part in characterizing and adding to the development of their child’s' identity, also it is the parents that children first look up to at an early age.
The story from this novel that tells that the different backgrounds of the Wes Moores’. One of them as being part of a happy family; not happy by material possessions or commodities, but by the amazing blessings that the mother’s family had. The base of their faith was originally Christianity. So what turned out badly here that these two children couldn't acquire this kingdom in paradise? It is possible to commit no mistakes and still lose, that is not a weakness of faith, that is life.
The father's impact on these children, then again, might have been what twisted their life-choices out of proportion. According to the novel the two children Tony and Wes both had different fathers, however they both left Marry a single mother. Mary, an associate degree graduate from Johns Hopkins University, was not fortunate with her relationships like the majority of people. She first married Tony’s father Bernard, he led a life with zero responsibility and eventually became an alcoholic, note that this was not the same person Marry thought she had married, people change. When Bernard’s life hit rock bottom he couldn’t maintain a healthy relationship, he ended up leaving leaving her in an exchange to live in an area riddled with drugs and famine. The book says Bernard was able to see his son eight months after birth, so this gives us an idea about what level of importance Bernard held for his children.
Wes stared at me after I’d asked my question, letting a moment pass and a smirk flicker across his face before responding.
“I really haven’t thought too deeply about his impact on my life because, really he didn’t have one.”
Wes leaned back in his seat and threw an even stare at me. “come on, man” I pressed on. “You don’t think about how things would have been different if he’d been there? If he cared enough to be there?” (Moore, PT.1)
Years later Tony moved out to stay with his father, which only led to him becoming a well-known drug dealer in a drug riddled neighborhood. Obviously due to the lack of positive influence from his father, the only thing he influenced him was in being irresponsible.
The other Wes had to deal with the tragedy of losing his father at an early age. Wes’ father died from a complication after a successful surgery which puts us in perspective on how much control we have our lives under, which is none. He was a college graduate, a radio show host, and an overall successful man who any child would have loved to look up to.
Losing their fathers influenced these youngsters' life incredibly. How might they make it? How might they lead an existence without tossing their weights exclusively onto their mom's backs? Sure, Mary worked hard to provide for them, nurturing them at her best. She enlisted them in school and did the best the could to raise them. Tony however, decided to live with his father in a neighborhood ran by drug dealers, leading a life that cost him greatly. Tony joined gangs, he became addicted to drugs, he grew up to become an expert on the street life, and failed at going to school. This was the path that was laid before him, and the path that he chose.
Concerning Wes, he was blessed in an approach to live with his mom, including his older sister Nikki and his little sister Shani. With their mom, despite the fact that they were not exceptionally rich, life was great and there was magnificent discipline at home. Wes had the opportunity to go out and play with companions and grow up in a socially suitable climate. They had lived in the Bronx in the early 1970s. In those days The Bronx was slithering with drug dealers and criminals and the road life was not sheltered safe but rather in any event Wes oversaw dependably to return home in one piece.
As indicated by the writer, Wes went to class with the assistance of his grandparents. They would sustain him and his sisters, yet shockingly he was not doing well in his classes because of the way that he concentrated on football which he happened to play in the streets with his companions. While his brother was out on the streets of Baltimore selling drugs, Wes would skip school and go out with friends to play or do mildly mischievous things normal kids that age like to do. As a young child, the open door he had of getting an education to expand his odds at a superior life, was not a thing to worry about to for Wes.
As with Tony, his best wishes were always for his little brother; he wanted Wes not to get a taste of the life on the street, specially a taste of what drug dealing could give you, but either way Wes fell into the system. He was out selling drugs and making money, his mother eventually found out and flushed all of the drugs down the toilet which only made Wes more frustrated in trying to figure out how he would come up with the money to pay for the merchandise lost. Wes chose not to listen to the advice of his peers. His mother warned him, yet it meant nothing to him. It got to the point that when Tony found out what Wes was doing, he couldn’t help but to beat him up in an attempt to push him away from looking up to him.
Tony was finally shot in the chest three times and Wes was arrested for stealing a car. The life that both brothers put up did not match the legacy of their grandparents which was based on the respect of life and taking life seriously. When their great grandfather went to Lincoln University, he became friends with his mentor and they talked about how to change the world. Reverend Dr. Thomas followed his dream of becoming a minister. Eventually he became the first Black minister in the Dutch Reformed Church, and his friend also became the first Black President in Ghana, Africa.
The saddest part was when Wes was captured and imprisoned at the Jessup Corrections Institute. Tony came to visit him and their discussion went: "When did you feel that you had turned into a man?", to which he replied, “I think it was when I first felt accountable to people other than myself. When I first cared that my actions mattered to people other than just me”. Once in a while it winds up pitiful when one recalls his or her oversights and sees it troublesome fix the harm done.
Their grandparents additionally took after their parent's legacy; they all turned out to be religiously dedicated and taught (aside from their great grandsons who took a detour). Indeed, once in a while you don't accuse the course so much, because even if the atmosphere around you is more predisposed to a positive path in life, no matter what your family may have failed you at, the spirit of others could change your life for the better. Be that as it may, if both are failing then it is inalienably unsafe, and such is what seems to be happening to the crucial lives of brothers Tony and Wes. Their mom, regardless of whether she had encountered this previously, saw it.
America shockingly has had a long characterizing history of shootings, slaughtering, drugs, and gangs, in the city of Baltimore. What exacerbated it was that after the demise of Dr. Martin Luther King Jr., Baltimore was ablaze with war between the blacks and the whites. There were mass shootings, houses burning, a great deal of disorderly conduct and chaos. Would you be cheerful on the off chance that you were there? Clearly not. This obviously was a vital part to the forming of these youngsters' prospects.
Each decision we make enables us to control what is to come.